Most people do not understand what a School Counselor really does; or at least operate with a gross underestimation of what they do. They think a School Counselor’s job is similar to a therapists’, managing one client after another in a calm, serene setting. However, to be honest, a School Counselor’s day looks more like a bees nest; many conflicting priorities, lots of needs, a myriad of people tugging on them, and little time to get things done.
In the midst of so many demands on their time, you as a School Counselor have to prioritize activity so you can be as effective as possible. So what is 
your number one priority as a School Counselor? The answer might surprise you because it is foreign to so many Counselors. Your top priority must be YOU. Why is this so foreign to Counselors? Because, like you, they have committed their whole lives to helping OTHERS and feel somewhat “selfish” helping themselves. However, if you do not take care of yourself, you will lose your effectiveness and will be worthless to others (students, families, teachers and administration).
Over the years, I have learned there are a couple of practical things you can do to keep your focus and energy as a School Counselor:
1) Get out of the school, mentally and physically. Having a hobby you enjoy that calms your mind and spirit is essential. Whether it is hiking, sewing, reading, or spending time with those you love…make this a priority. If you find your mind constantly wrapped up in your Counseling efforts and you are putting in longer days than necessary, you probably need to reorganize your priorities.
2) Plan when you can. When you plan your day, you are less reactive and can prioritize those activities you believe will have the greatest effect. While I understand there will always be times you will have to react, you will be amazed that when you make lists, use a calendar, and close your door sometimes; you can actually see progress.
3) Make your office a sanctuary. What little time you get to spend in your office should energize you, not aid in the depletion of your energy. Replace the bright bulbs and lamps with softer lighting. Have calm music playing in the background and use essential oils to permeate your environment. Not only you will be energized, but those who come into your office will be less stressed and in a better mind to communicate. My office has become a place where even teachers can take a time out to gather themselves and refocus their energy.
4) Have a “someone” of your own. Everyone needs a “someone” in their life to talk to; to get advice, to fill their bucket, to toss ideas to, to speak truth, or to get re-energized. Do you have someone like that? That person could be a mentor, a friend or a loved one. It must be someone that cares about you first as an individual, then as a School Counselor.
These are just a few ways you can take care of your top priority: YOU. Everyone is different and your recipe for self-care may be different from mine. However, just like in a counseling session, you must begin to take steps in the right direction. Don’t allow the hectic schedule and demands on your time sacrifice the very thing that will help you be most effective.